Some might find it interesting to know that moderate alcohol consumption actually has some benefits, but the problem, however, is when you fail to keep this consumption moderate.
Jumia Travel, the leading online travel agency, shares 7 signs you are going overboard with your alcohol consumption.
1. CONSTANTLY NEEDING TO PEE AT NIGHT
The human body makes something known as an anti-diuretic hormone to regulate the amount of urine in our bodies. At night, more of this hormone is produced to help reduce the volume of urine produced so you wouldn’t have to pee so much or at all in the night.
Alcohol decreases the production of this hormone and causes you to produce more urine, which therefore makes you wake up to pee constantly at night.
If you are under 65, even if you naturally drink a lot of fluids like water, fruits etc during the day, at night you really shouldn’t have to wake up to pee. If you do have to wake up to pee, maybe only once; but definitely not every night. If you notice this constant need to pee every night, check your alcohol consumption, it might be the cause.
2. REGULARLY WAKING UP WITH DRY EYES
Alcohol dehydrates your entire body and also ends up in your tears, interfering with the lubrication of your eyes. When you notice that your eyes become sticky and you regularly wake up with dry eyes, check that your alcohol intake isn’t to blame.
3. SPENDING TIME IN THE DAY THINKING OF HAVING A DRINK
You might not necessarily be drinking multiple glasses of drinks all day, but if the thought of a glass of drink is what gets you through the day or any difficult situation, that’s a warning sign. Your mantra becomes, “When I get home, I can have a drink”, “Let me just deal with this and I can have a drink” etc. Using alcohol to self-medicate depression or anxiety, only ends up making things worse because alcohol is a depressant itself.
4. NOT SLEEPING WELL
Constant alcohol consumption, especially when in excess, can cause your brain to forget how to sleep efficiently and causes fragmented sleep cycles. You, thus, tend to miss out on the ‘restorative’ parts of your sleep, even on nights you haven’t even had a drink.
5. TIREDNESS AND FORGETFULNESS
While in your body, alcohol becomes a stimulant when the body breaks it down. In the process, it releases sugars and other substances that cause you to wake up more and most times stops you from getting into REM (the most active part of sleep), which is very important for helping the brain to process mood and for memory. Without getting enough REM, you wake up feeling more grumpy, tired and forgetful.
6. BEING ABLE TO HOLD YOUR DRINK
While most people are cheered for this, being able to have a couple of drinks without feeling tipsy is a sign that you are drinking regularly. You are thus able to ‘hold your drink’ because your body has built up a tolerance to the short-term effects of alcohol. The process of your body building up this tolerance increases the production of enzymes that break down the alcohol and in the long-term increases the risk of liver damage.
7. PEOPLE CLOSE TO YOU ARE CONCERNED
If your friends, family, co-workers or anyone close to you has hinted or voiced out that it’s time to cut back your alcohol consumption, you should listen. You can ask for their help in helping you cut back and think of ways they can help to hold you accountable.
5 WAYS TO CONTROL EMOTIONS OF EMBARRASSMENT, ANGER, ANXIETY AND FEAR
Emotions can be very fickle. One moment you are feeling this way and the next you aren’t. They can also be extremely powerful and forceful, to the point that you feel you have no choice but to cave in. Emotions of embarrassment, anger, anxiety and fear are some of the most difficult to control.
Jumia Travel, the leading online travel agency, shares 5 ways to be strong, take the wheel and control these emotions without giving in to them.
1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE EMOTION
One of the ways to deal with these emotions is to accept responsibility for their existence, says Joseph Grenny in his article for the Harvard Business Review. You should understand and accept that the emotions are about you, and are not the effect or cause of any external factor.
For example, if you have been scolded by your boss and are angry at his criticism you should consider that based on his personality, his scolding could either have resulted from feelings of curiosity, surprise and compassion, or they could have been from prejudice, resentment and anger. The fact that you chose to believe it was out of the later is more about you, than about your boss. This is what you have to take responsibility for, understand and deal with.
2. WHICH STORY DO YOU TELL YOURSELF?
When faced with emotions of embarrassment, anger, anxiety and fear, which story do you tell yourself? Is it the victim’s story – one that upholds your virtues and absolves you of responsibility? Is it the villain’s story – one that exaggerates the faults of others and attributes the situation or incident to their evil prejudicial motives? Or is it the helpless story – one that concludes that healthy courses of action like humbly listening, speaking up honestly etc., are pointless? Identifying the story you tell yourself will better help you detach enough from the situation to reflect, take control of your emotions and face the truth of the situation. Then, you can react to it better.
3. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS
Ask yourself questions about the event, situation or incident that made you feel the emotions of embarrassment, anger, anxiety and fear. Ask yourself difficult questions to get to the root of the matter and be brave enough to answer truthfully.
One of the best ways to do this is by asking questions like “What am I pretending not to know about my role or fault in this situation?” (This question will attack your victim story). “Would a reasonable, rational and decent person say or do this?” Why would a reasonable, rational and decent person say or do this?” (This question attacks your villain story), and “What’s the right thing to do to achieve what I really want?” (This question attacks your helpless story).
Pondering on these questions will help you better see your faults, the faults of the other person and will help you release the emotions of embarrassment, anger, anxiety and fear as you determine the right thing to do. Remember, ask questions rather than present your defense.
4. UNDERSTAND WHY YOU THINK AND REACT THE WAY YOU DO
As we grow, we learn to tell ourselves certain stories to protect our ‘safety’ and ‘self-worth’. For example, being bullied when you were younger or having parents that criticized more than they commended you, tends to make your brain code conditions or situations like this or related to this as threatening. You thus begin to react to these conditions or situations defensively, unable to see it objectively.
To control your reactions to these situations and conditions, you need to do some soul searching and identify these triggers. After identifying them, it is easier to be more objective and challenge the perception that your safety and self-worth are at risk in these situations and conditions.
To help with this, you can develop a mantra and recite it in times or situations that seem to threaten your safety and self-worth. Mantras like “Be logical, be objective”, “Be humble. Be calm. I won’t let this hurt me” can help. It also helps to keep in mind the personality of the person or people criticizing you. It is easier to listen to them if you know and respect them.
5. FORGIVE YOUR EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Even after understanding your emotional triggers for thinking and reacting the way you do, chances are you are occasionally going to lose control and give into them without realizing. You shouldn’t beat yourself up for this and give into self-loathing. You also shouldn’t start to wonder about the problem with yourself and personality. The fact that certain things happened to you in the past is not your fault, and they certainly don’t make you weird or abnormal.
Everyone has a past and ‘things’ have happened to everybody, you’re not the only one, you should therefore be strong, forgive yourself and work on moving on from it so you are no longer controlled by it. As you forgive, you will find yourself dissociating from the harsh feelings.
7 WAYS TO MAKE INTERESTING SMALL TALK
Small talk, it’s ironic how there’s really nothing ‘small’ about making small talk. It requires a level of intellectual exertion to maintain and keep from becoming boring. A good number of people dread it, but the reality is that it is a skill everyone eventually needs to develop.
Jumia Travel shares 7 ways to help you make interesting small talk.
1. Make the Person Feel Comfortable
Before you initiate small talk with a person(s), make the person(s) feel comfortable. The best way to do this is to have an ‘open stance’, and direct your body towards the person without overdoing or being forceful or stiff about it. Give a friendly greeting, smile and politely introduce yourself to the person.
Make eye contact with the person, and if the person isn’t comfortable with eye contact, tailor your mien to make the person feel like you are giving him/her attention, even without making much eye contact. You should also remember to maintain the right distance from the person and not lean in too close to the person. Respect the person’s personal space, and don’t seem too eager to talk. Everything should be done in moderation.
2. Small Compliments Can Go a Long Way
After politely introducing yourself, another way you can make the person even more comfortable is to give small compliments, here and there, to the person. Compliments have a way of disarming people and helping them relax and feel more comfortable.
Simple compliments that wouldn’t come off as being flirtatious or offensive are fine. Simple compliments done in moderation so as not to make the other person uncomfortable are fine. But be careful with this however, not everyone likes compliments. For some, it makes them uncomfortable, and for some others it makes them defensive. You should therefore, be sensitive to the reaction of the other person and use your discretion when giving these compliments.
3. Pay Attention and Be Sensitive To the Direction of the Conversation
To make great conversation and small talk, you should be attentive and focus on the conversation without letting your mind wander. Peradventure, your mind does wander, politely ask the person to reiterate what has just been said. You should be careful not to request for this too often, after a while it becomes cliché and upsetting to the one having to reiterate repeatedly.
Initially, try to keep the conversation light, fun and positive. Loosen up and be ready to smile, exclaim and laugh over things, even over things you might not necessarily find funny but are ideal for you to react to in that context. In the process, if the other person(s) gets comfortable and decides to share things, more or less on a deeper level, with you, you should be open to hear it.
Be a listening ear and a shoulder for them to lean on. If you by chance connect with that person(s) on this deep level, you can share your stories and experiences too. However, if you do not, simply give opinions you might have about the issue and if you are in a counseling mood, give advice. But be as open as you can with this advice, so you are not blamed if anything goes wrong because of your advice.
4. Find a Common Ground
Once introductions are over, the small talk begins but that is nothing to worry about. Simply, begin by exploring subjects or things that you and the person(s) might relate to. When you find a common ground, you can then use this to establish a connection.
For example, if you are at a book signing and want to start small talk with someone, a good way to begin is to ask questions and share experiences on writing and literature. At this juncture, the person can either respond by sharing his/her own experiences or confess that they are just there for the food! In that case, you laugh at the joke and use that to begin another conversation on the person’s likely love for food!
5. Try Not To Ask Too Many Questions; Instead Share Your Experiences Or Stories
Asking too many questions when trying to make small talk can make the whole thing seem like an interview instead of a conversation; to avoid this, you should ask fewer questions and share more experiences or stories you have about that subject. Try to avoid sharing too many facts, figures and information about the subject of the conversation, as that might make the conversation boring.
6. Know When It’s Time to End the Conversation
Remember that it’s a conversation, not a consultation. You should remain sensitive and know when enough has been said and exchanged. At this juncture, when you sense the conversation is coming to a lull, you can politely end with an offer to call the person(s) or see each other again. The person(s) can either ask for your contact details or share theirs with you. You then say goodbye to the person(s) nicely and go your separate ways.
7. Not Everyone is Ready For a Conversation, Don’t Force It
If you try to make small talk with a person(s), and no matter how hard you try they refuse to loosen up and open up to you, don’t force it. It isn’t your fault that they don’t want to talk, and you should see it this way and move on to another person who is willing and ready to talk.
If your attempt to make small talk with a person is not forthcoming, and the person remains rigid in their responses – sharing little or no information, politely end the conversation when you sense the next lull and move on to another person. But be careful not to overdo this, moving from one person to another in a social gathering should be done in moderation so as not to draw unnecessary attention to yourself.
5 WAYS TO AVOID OVERSPENDING
Money can be such a fluid thing. It goes much more easily than it comes, and is a difficult thing to control. Most times, expenses upon expenses will come and before you realise it a good chunk of your money is gone. It really can be stressful.
Jumia Travel shares 5 ways to help you avoid overspending and the stress that comes with it.
1. HAVE A BUDGET
This cannot be overemphasized. If you don’t want to overspend, you have to have a budget. You can’t continue to spend spontaneously and expect a miracle to happen.
You might feel like having a budget is too tedious or too technical but it really isn’t, or at least it doesn’t have to be.
2. IMPROVE YOUR BUDGET
Many times, even with a budget, we still end up overspending. A reason for this, most times, is that our budgets are not feasible and do not sufficiently cover our legitimate expenses. In this case, you should improve on your budget so it is more realistic, captures your legitimate needs and is easy to follow.
Legitimate expenses largely consist of your variable expenses. Things like entertainment, clothing, foodstuffs, and transportation are your variable expenses. Most times, when we initially create a budget we are too tight with our variable expenses because we are trying to rein them in and avoid overspending on them.
When you are too tight with your variable expenses you end setting yourself up for failure. This doesn’t mean you should be excessive in the amount you allocate for these variables (if you could afford to be excessive you won’t need a budget in the first place), but you should be honest enough with yourself to acknowledge how much you really need to sufficiently take care of them. You can base this on how much you’ve spent on them in the past and how much you can realistically afford to spend on them now.
3. USE CASH
The cashless society that ours is gradually turning into can be a good thing, but not if you’re trying to avoid overspending. Avoid taking your debit cards with you everywhere, especially when you are going out for entertainment. Stick to a cash-only budget system that forces you to stick to your budget. There is nothing that motivates you not to overspend more than when you know you don’t have any surplus money with you to overspend with.
In the end it all boils down to discipline. You have to learn to discipline yourself not to overspend and, as much as you can, avoid situations that can make you overspend. Occasionally, you can depend on a friend or family member for support and accountability in helping you curb overspending.
5. GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT
From time to time, when you have successfully stuck to your budget and avoided overspending, do something nice for yourself with your money to commend yourself for the effort. It helps to encourage you and becomes a sort of reward you give yourself for the short-term financial goals you successfully achieved.
Again, it’s important to remember that you set these financial goals for yourself first, achieve them and then reward yourself by spending some, not all the money you have been able to save. Don’t be excessive with it.
5 Hilarious Things Nigerian Girls Do Before Valentine
Valentine is a very special day to celebrate love. Jumia Travel gathers some of the weird but sometimes annoying things Nigerian girls do before valentine
1. They cling to their boyfriends
There are quite a number of ladies searching for guys who will Val them. For the ones who are in relationships, they become agitated. They don’t want to lose their boyfriend to another woman. They call them almost every second, want to go to the movies with them every weekend and even they parties they are not invited they will be there. They will not give you breathing space. In fact, you dare not dangle breakup to their faces!
2. Red is the new colour
Even girls who don’t like colour red will adorn it. They just want to join the red bandwagon. A touch of red is not enough for them. They wear red clothes, red shoes, red lipsticks, and red skirts all in the name of valentine. There nothing wrong with but it’s just valentine, madam!
3. They are suddenly very responsive
You have been talking to this particular girl since December, she is always being cold and unresponsive. But as Valentine is a few days away, you notice that she becomes friendly that she even calls you for the very first time since you started wooing her. My brother, don’t be carried away, it is the valentine.
4. Their dress sense change
This may not apply to all girls but some of them tweak their dress sense to get more attention from men. Unfortunately, this change in dress is not all that decent. It is better to be yourself whether it is valentine or not.
5. They become regular in church
A Church is a place where you can meet a prospective partner. For ladies who are not regular in the church, you suddenly see them frequenting different churches. In fact, they are very selective in the kind of churches they attend.
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